Key Ways to Stay Calm & Well During Highly Stressed Times

In Mental Health by Fiona

Joel Curtis is a registered Psychologist with Endeavour Wellness and has over 17 years of experience. Joel holds a Masters’ Degree in Psychology from Western Sydney University. Joel owns a number of private practices in Sydney and provides expert content for several national TV and Radio programmes.

Here Joel shares ways to help you stay calm and well during highly stressful times.

Each day we are faced with various challenges. Some we are emotionally and physically equipped to handle, while other are out of our comfort zone. Unexpected situations, high stake exams, interviews, and tests are all a part of our daily routine, but still, they make us feel stressed and worried.

From small to big, every person experiences a lot of issues daily. These anticipated and unanticipated situations may result in a lot of stress, frustration, anxiety, anger, and fear. To be successful and happy, you should know how to deal with such events and stay calm. The key here to acknowledge how you feel, and why you feel it – is natural. Only once you accept your situation then you can work on alleviating the feeling.
When faced with stress, one feels that the weight of the whole world has fallen on his or her shoulder. Here are some ways which can help you stay calm and take control in highly stressed times:

When faced with stress, one feels that the weight of the whole world has fallen on his or her shoulder. Here are some ways which can help you stay calm and take control in highly stressed times:

1. Trust yourself
A successful person always makes a plan beforehand and then sticks to it no matter what hurdles they have to face. It requires a lot of bravery to stand by your plans, so, be confident for what is in your mind and try to achieve it. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes because you learn from the mistakes.

2. Stay Positive
William James says, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” If you have some stressful thoughts in your mind, try to think of something positive that has happened in your life. Consider your hurdles as opportunities. When you’re successful in diverting your attention to think of something positive, it will refocus your attention and help to calm you.

3. Plan Ahead
We are unaware of the coming hurdles in life but we have to plan beforehand. We know what sort of problems we can face so, we should make plans accordingly. Take into consideration the results of your plans. Plan ahead by using the following strategy, “If X happens, I will do Y.”

4. Take Control
If things are not going on the right path and according to plans, don’t consider yourself as a victim. Avoid over-thinking or else it will add to your stress. We know that we cannot control what is to happen, however, we can control how we respond and react to it.

5. Daily Journaling
Writing the negative thoughts on a piece of paper can lessen the stress in the mind. You can write at any time of the day but the best time is before an important event or while you’re feeling stressed. A common practice, writing twenty minutes in the evening about anything that is upsetting you, has proven to be effective in alleviating stress and anxiety.

6. Stay Physically Activity
Exercise is a way to relieve your stress. Exercise gives physical fitness to your body and results in providing your body with the energy which is helpful in soothing the nerves and balancing the mind. When a person is stressed, they’re in a fight and flight mode, which makes them anxious and jittery. Exercising or being physically active dispels the extra energy, helping you calm your nerves.
Exercise results in the release of the brains feel good neurotransmitters known as endorphins
Exercise improves the mood
Motion provides meditation to a stressful brain

7. Count Backwards
If you’re stressed and your emotions are out of control, the best thing you can do is to take a break and start counting backward from 10. It will give you a break and makes you able to realize that the issue is not that big to consider and every problem has a solution.

8. Focus on Breathing
Anxiety, stress, and feelings of frustration make us hyperventilate. Inability to take in enough oxygen results in feelings of lightheadedness. To avoid feeling light headed, take deep breaths to control your breathing. This practice is also recommended by psychologists to lessen the effects of anxiety. Keep on taking long breaths until you feel relaxed. It’s a kind of meditation.

9. Identify The Stressor
Try to identify the reason of your stressful condition and work on eliminating the issues out of your life. Once you have identified the cause of your stress and anxiety you can start working on it by yourself or seek professional help to learn to cope with it effectively. However, the first step is always to identify your stressor and find a way to deal with it.

Apply the above Endeavour Wellness suggestions in your life to fight your way out of living a stressful and anxious life. You have the power to control your surroundings and how you react to them and it begins with gaining control over your own emotions.

“My grace is sufficient for thee; my strength is made perfect in weakness”

“My grace is sufficient for thee; my strength is made perfect in weakness”